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One of the biggest negatives about social media has to be oversharing and the need of some who seem to live their lives for it. You know the people who absolutely have to share every single moment of their lives. It seems like this got even worse during the pandemic with people who didn't really do this before suddenly sharing every single minutiae of their days most likely in a bid to try to stay relevant and appease a need for attention.

Whenever people are constantly posting about how great their life is, you have to wonder how great it really is if that person seems to be on social media more than out living their life. I haven't been well and that really puts what’s truly important into perspective. I've been unplugging more than usual lately and I've also been making good use of the mute button to silence any content that doesn't interest me. I'm not being a hater, it's just a form of self care. Like I don't really have the energy to pay attention to what someone fed their pet for dinner for the tenth day in a row when my bad arm goes dead every time I lean my head forward.  Some people use social media in a way that is enlightening and positive while some are exposing just how superficial, self absorbed and empty they really are. We should only engage in that which we find uplifting. And for those living for likes and follows, consider finding ways to enjoy your real life more instead of trying to create the illusion of a perfect life on social media. You will be much happier for it.

16 comments

Shireen L. Platt said...

I have been unplugging more too but yes, I get what you mean by the oversharing and I agree with how wonderful is their real-life truly is if they have to find some sort of validation on line.

R's Rue said...

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Emmylou said...

Amen, chingu! I honestly can't take anyone who posts all these "magical" moments every freaking second seriously. I mean....c'mon. Kinda aggravating really but I guess some people are just like that:( Anyhoo, I really do hope you're feeling much better these days. XOXO

Doctor Anne said...

The most important thing is only following what lifts you up - if someone wants to share everything, so be it. I don’t have to follow and that is only my decision to make!

Ivana Split said...

Social media can make people do crazy things and we should be careful to what we give our attention. Some people aren't as superficial as they seem (at least I hope so), but they still get caught up in the whole social media game and they forget to live in the moment and that's what is really important. I wonder how much real quality time these social media addicts really spend with their family and friends? To each his own as they say, but it makes sense to disconnect and be mindful of what we let into our lives. In these stressful times, we really need to cut out toxic things from our life.

Eli Dou said...

This is so real... Actually I had a friend who in social media seemed to have the perfect life, traveling a lot, posting so many pictures of amazing places. And when you talked to her... she was nuts and depressed most of the time. Really sad...

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Paola Lauretano said...

So true Rowena, it's really sad!
Your posta are always interesting!!!
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Makeup Muddle said...

I loved this post Rolala. I don't have any social media platforms at all for this blog and I couldn't be happier. It's like I can live in my own little bubble, and not have to see all the narcissistic posts, and people bragging about how wonderful their life is. I do have SM for my main blog gemmaetc but I'm loving not having to feel rubbish after feeling inferior from seeing everyone's 'perfect' lives :) I hope your shoulder is feeling a little better xo

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Mica said...

Sorry to hear you are still in so much pain - I hope things get better for you soon!

I agree too, I think it's important to follow accounts that make you happy, I have no problems unfollowing people. I keep my blog and social media focused on the lighter side of things as much as possible, as it's nice to have that break from the day to day things :) Days where I take more pictures than I have time to post are the best days, and with the school holidays the last couple of weeks there has been a lot of that thankfully! It's been nice to enjoy time with friends and family again, although I can't say I think I've spent any less time on my phone as the kids ensure I am in the moment even back when we had lockdown and never stare at a boring screen for too long, haha!

Hope you have been having a great weekend :)

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The Dainty Dolls House said...

Sorry you are still in pain, I do hope it'll get better for you. I agree, life is lived too much online sometimes, people post about everything and it gets boring to me really. I prefer some mystery. I don't know how much life can really be lived if we're too busy trying to instagram it all. Hope you have a great week x

R.ChamberofBeauty said...

Hi Rowena, I'm sad that you are still in pain. Please take care of yourself and take your medicines properly. Be positive, you will be better very soon I'm sure. Comes to the point, I completely agree with you, people in India also, have become crazy with social media. Everyone here is busy on these platforms. On social media their lives look perfect, they all are happy, rich, and healthy. Sometimes they post about everything it gets boring to me. I always find peace in my blogging and with my family.
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Sakuranko said...

I try to be in my best form in my real life
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FASHION TALES said...

This is why I tell people to unplug, I’ve been doing it actually for many years — life is all too precious. To be honest, social media can be great sometimes but if you are not happy at home that is truly something that can hurt you in the long run. I try not to get caught up in the hype of things and I agree, it’s annoying and unnecessary when people ‘overshare.’ Rest up, dear. I hope this week gets better for you soon. x/Madison

Hena Tayeb said...

So true. Well said. It's always smart to take everything with a grain of salt.. nothing is ever as perfect as it seems.

Ivana Split said...

Thank you for your comments. I hope you're doing well.

Jackie Harrison said...

I have to agree I see a big difference in some of my followers who post more than 10 images a day.I always wonder and ask myself Does this person have a life? even before the pandemic. I believe is their escape of their reality in life. I prefer to see things that I could learn from like cooking, gardening and diy than a person face and makeup, where am I going to wear that outfit and why should I do my makeup who is going to see it? so I tune only to what I could learn from. Everything else is irrelevant.