The truth is that most people struggle with confidence sometimes, even the people who seem completely confident from the outside are just presenting a facade, and building confidence is a slow process. With that in mind, keep reading to find out how to improve your self confidence.
Stop Comparing Yourself All The Time
One of the biggest things that can damage your confidence is comparison. After all, it’s very easy to look at other people online and assume everyone’s more successful, more attractive, happier, or perhaps more comfortable in themselves than you are, but the reality is that people usually only show carefully chosen parts of their lives publicly, and not the stress, insecurity, or difficult moments that happen. In the end, constant comparison is just going to make it very difficult to appreciate your own real progress in life because you’re always measuring yourself against someone else instead.
Focus On Feeling Comfortable With Yourself
A lot of confidence actually comes from feeling comfortable in your own skin, identity and life rather than trying to match up to other people’s expectations all the time. This could mean changing certain habits, improving your health, finding supportive friendships, dressing differently, exploring personal goals, or maybe making decisions that help you feel more like yourself.
When you think about it, confidence tends to grow naturally when you stop spending so much energy trying to fit into a mould that doesn’t work for you. And for some people, that might include accessing support that’s directly connected to identity and healthcare - for example, conversations about gender affirming care can be linked to confidence and happiness because feeling more comfortable in yourself can have a massive effect on how you live your life.
Stop Waiting To Be Perfect
A lot of people delay things because they think they need to be confident first, which means they’ll wait until they feel totally ready before trying something new, speaking up more, changing careers, meeting people, or basically doing the things they really want to. But when you think about it, you’ll see that confidence often comes after you do those things rather than before. In many cases, people actually get more confident because they tried things while they were feeling pretty nervous and then grew from that rather than waiting for the nerves to go (which wasn’t going to happen).
Spend Time Around Supportive People
The people you spend time with can really affect your confidence. Supportive friendships, relationships, and environments usually make it easier to feel comfortable and accepted, whereas constantly being around criticism, negativity, or judgement can damage your confidence in the long run. That’s why it’s so important to pay attention to how certain people and situations make you feel because they could be draining your confidence without you realizing it.
This is a contributed post.
Photo: Vogue Korea
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