This is where I am right now. For the sake of my mental wellbeing I have largely stopped engaging online because most people are still carrying on like everything is great. I mean I get that everything going on in the world is a dumpster fire and we have to find our joys but for some people that is their only mode and honestly it feels a little morally bankrupt in some cases. That's their choice and it's fine but then it gets dismissive to the point that you can't even talk to them about anything real without being told you're negative and nobody wants to hear that. I actually got censored by someone just for saying that I was opting out of supporting the current economy.
Like WTF! I get that you're dedicated to your useless consumerism but there was absolutely no criticism or telling you what to do. You do you. Definitely a character issue there and that was an instant unfollow and block. It was a relief honestly as it reminded me of how much I have to censor myself just to interact online because some people really just want to interact through fake empty platitudes which is seriously so exhausting. That's why I'm done with them and don't engage with anything that doesn't resonate with me anymore. Not having to force toxic positivity has been liberating and given me so much peace.I don't really GAF about anyone's overconsumption or their makeup or outfits right now unless maybe if they're part of the CC community. It's just all so insignificant when people are being snatched off the streets and getting deported simply because of the color of their skin while we are losing our rights and any last benefits our tax dollars are supposed to go towards are being sent to fund wars overseas. I'm scared. I'm a POC and I'm worried for my family and friends. The world is on fire and the country I live in has never been a good place for us and it's only going to get worse. I can't pretend otherwise since I’m trying to survive.
Before anyone jumps to any weird conclusions, my life is fine. I'm doing well and I'm currently keeping busy with projects, learning and hobbies. I'm eating well, physically active and taking care of my health. Turns out avoiding getting sick is having a very positive impact on my life. I'm very fortunate to be married to someone who is supportive, likeminded and just as dedicated to protecting our health. I'm also staying informed and preparing myself with long range plans. Ignoring uncomfortable truths, avoiding reality and choosing to be willfully ignorant is one of the reasons we are where we are now and doing that doesn't make anything that's happening any less true or horrific but nobody wants to hear that.
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I can understand that you no longer feel comfortable in your country. Of course, I don't know the exact events and circumstances, but I see news reports, and they aren't very good.
The internet and various platforms are also in a lot of trouble. Normal conversation and discussions are barely possible anymore.
You are a wonderful human with a steady moral compass. Love your friend. I’m glad you thrive.
I feel you Rowena. This is exactly where I am at these days. The world is a growing dumpster fire and so many people turning a blind eye and not giving a damn. It is exhausting. I have seen so many horrors involving innocent children and worrying sick about what is happening over in the USA; it drives me crazy how nonchalant people are. I try so hard to engage on platforms like instagram but it's hard to comment on pretty ensembles and material things when our world and society are crumbling. I don't really even know how to engage or interact anymore. I don't think I want to either. I feel so helpless and hopeless these days. It's awful what is going on where you live. I am terrified for my family over there. The endless kidnappings by ICE and confrontations. The stress and sadness of the loved ones left behind. It's ludicrous and feels like a bad dream. How is any of this real? Stay safe my friend, feel reach out if you ever need to talk or vent. I wish I could offer more or do more, but at this point I don't even know anymore.
Sxx
I totally understand you. I think a lot of us feel the same way. A lot going on in the world right now that affects our mental health but a lot of people chose to ignore cos they feel its best not to get involved for their mental health but we forget that the more we ignore something the more it grows and lingers.
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100% to everything you wrote, chingu. Truly depressing seeing what is happening in the world right now, and let me tell you, my mental health has been better since I basically stopped interacting with social media. I honestly don't understand how some people do it....how can you pretend everything is ok when the world is literally burning? I get that most people don't want to post anything negative and just want to concentrate on happy stuff. At the same time, I feel it's so disingenuous:(
Anyhoo, glad to know all is well with you. ((((HUGS))))
Wow is a complicated situation and I can relate in some way with you. These days are hard, sad and complicated but I am happy to know that despite everything you are fine
You're right. Everyone who is not into toxic positivity gets censored or criticized. Our world is on fire. Pretending that it's ok, it won't make the problems go away. At this point, nothing is going away. We all have to make some preparations. Of course one doesn't stop living during difficult and hard times, there's work and stuff, but the sheer amount of toxic positivity and wishful thinking online is annoying. I feel like the online world is sometimes turning people into zombies.
I'm not online much because I'm busy juggling work and being chronically ill but I get what you mean!
I totally get you and entirely understand where you are coming from, Rowena. The world is in such a complete mess, beyond! It doesn’t help when it seems that nobody cares about the real issues but it is a complicated thing — because we live in an era where people overshare, others think that one is not sensitive to issues but without knowing the person and their everyday experiences there is no way they could know! Sorry, you had that experience from the person censoring. I choose to keep my little blog because it is literally therapy, as I deal with politics and as a POC myself the amount of rubbish I have to engage with daily with other execs is enough to throw in the towel. I am fortunate to have two residences US/U.K.— it does help a bit to escape but it’s still chaos everywhere in other ways ways, and I worry about young family members who are growing up in this troubled society. But I agree, some people I have also encountered pretending as if nothing is happening or choosing ignorance over reality. I don’t even understand some fashion blogging anymore as I have unfollowed a lot since because now people are nearly half-naked getting dressed on social media with no filter, when did this become a thing? Even my bf was like what are they doing? Why are they in their underwear these days? lol I think you are doing the right thing because at the end of the day we must protect ourselves and mental health — ignorant people are not worth it. For me, I don’t use social media regularly and I take many long breaks, and do what I can with the brands that I believe in and know are doing good work. Wishing you a healthy and safe June!
I get you. I keep seeing news and it is so sad and scary really.
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