Ways To Change Your Life That Will Improve Self Love

Elle, Elle Magazine

Everyone wants to be happy and live a fulfilling life. One of the best ways to do this is by making changes in your life and finding ways to improve self-love. It's not always easy to love yourself  when you're dealing with flaws or failures that seem impossible to overcome. However, there are some things you can start doing today that will lead you on the path to appreciating your own worth and creating more joy in your life.

Work on Your Flaws
It can be difficult to love yourself if you're just not happy with who you are. You might have insecurities that lower your self-esteem or maybe it's a habit that's holding you back. Whatever the case, you need to focus on ways to work on these so that you can improve your life and find happiness within yourself.  When it comes down to it, everyone has something about themselves they don't like but those minor imperfections make you unique. So instead of dwelling on them and letting them weigh, try to find way to make them a benefit rather than a liability.

Our flaws can be something as minor as being too shy or withdrawn, or it could be more significant like lacking the empathy. Whatever your weakness is, the first step is acknowledging it and then determining if you want to change for yourself or because other people tell you that you need to change. The realization that you need to change can be tough to accept but when putting in the work to do so results in improvements to your life and wellbeing, it is worth it.

Treat Yourself
One way to improve self-love is by treating yourself. This can include buying nice things for yourself such as shoes or clothes from The Iconic NZ, or going on a vacation. It also includes doing being kind to yourself and being good to your body and doing things like eating healthy and getting enough sleep. If you're feeling particularly low in self-esteem, consider picking up an old hobby you always loved or try something new.

To be the best version of yourself, you need to believe in your self worth. This means not only loving everything about yourself but accepting that you're not perfect, acknowledging your bad habits, forgiving past mistakes, and taking responsibility for how much time you spend alone vs. socializing (or spending time elsewhere). Treating yourself with care and respect will allow you to reach your full potential and that includes being happy.

Change Your Career/Job
Changing careers is a major decision and in some cases it can be the best one. You don't have to change your career solely for self-satisfaction. You should consider doing so if your current job isn't fulfilling in any way or if there are no opportunities for growth within that field. Consider the kind of work and environment would make you happy and fulfilled. If possible, try not to let money be a factor that keeps you from pursuing something that will bring joy into your life.

There are any humber of reasons you might want to make a change to your career or job. Not enjoying what you do for work, the hours being too long, or the commute being too much of a hassle can be common reasons for switching jobs. Whatever reason(s) lead up to a decision, it's always worth weighing out whether changing careers will make a significant improvement in your life and help you find more fulfillment.
 
Make New Friends
One of the easiest ways to change your life and improve self-love is by making new friends. If you don't have any close relationships, whether they're romantic or platonic, it can be challenging to grow confidence and feel good about yourself. Making friends might not seem like an essential step on the surface but when you're lonely, it's tough to imagine what could make you happy again until that one particular person enters your life.

People who are actively part of other people's lives tend to live longer than those who aren't as connected socially which means that there may be more opportunities for happiness if you work on your social skills. It will take a little effort and possibly some courage but reaching out won't hurt. When you start getting to know a person, get to know their interests and what they like about themselves rather than focusing on how you perceive them as "perfect" or not good enough for you.

Get Professional Help
If you're struggling with a mental health condition or addiction, it's essential to seek professional help. A therapist can provide valuable insight into your life and teach skills to help you make the change from the inside out.

Alternatively, if your symptoms are milder but still interfering with daily functioning like feeling depressed, then talking to a counselor may be just what you need. These professionals don't have clinical degrees in psychiatry or psychology, so they can't diagnose clients but counselors often offer short-term therapy for individuals looking to work on their emotional issues through nonclinical means outside of medical treatment facilities like hospitals and rehabilitation centers.
 
Move to a New Place
Moving to a new place can be difficult and scary, but it can also be a fantastic way to shake things up and get a fresh start. If you're feeling low or don't like the life you've created for yourself in your current city/town this may be something worth considering. It doesn't have to happen right away, but could be a goal to work towards.

There are so many benefits which include meeting new people who might help inspire you with their stories, being in different location could make life more interesting. Having fewer distractions from familiar places and routines also means being able (or needing) to focus on self-improvement goals more.

Hopefully these tips will help you to improve your sense of self-love and your wellbeing. It can be challenging and even overwhelming at times but if you use what you know about yourself and learn to accept that change might be part of the process, it can all come together for the better.

This is a contributed post.
Photo: Elle

2 comments

R's Rue said...

I’m glad I found this post. Thank you so much Rowena. Have a lovely day my friend.

Jackie Harrison said...

I meditate and I find very helpful making new friends is fun but so hard to do now since the pandemic is increasing and is making it harder to go out again.